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New To Bexhill, Things To Do For People In 20s?

posted by Holly Tappenden on 10 Apr 2010 at 2:53 pm

Hi I have just moved about 5 months ago to Bexhill for a job in Hastings, I like the small town atmosphere, but am struggling meeting people. I am in my early 20's and although theres alot of clubs and things to do for older or younger people, im struggling to meet people my own age.....


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Sharing The Struggle

posted by Simon Kempthorne on 02 May 2010 at 1:17 am

Hello Holly,

I'm 23, I've been here for 2 years (though on and off 2 years prior to 2008), and still I feel like a fish out of water.

I'm finding I have the same problem: where is it that Bexhill's young adult population go to socialise, exactly? The De La Warr Pavilion seems to be trying to tout itself as some sort of place for the young population of Bexhill, but really you have to have the acquired cultural taste for modern art to fully appreciate it.

And of course, I don't meet anyone at all when I decide to take a country bike ride for some photography!


posted by Paul Minter on 02 May 2010 at 4:40 pm

Try a few churches? The Living Word is lively and very loud. Beulah Baptist and Sidley Baptist. 8 Anglican - the best being St Mark's, Little Common. 3 Methodist, the best being Christchurch. 3 Roman Catholic, I don't seem to be able to break into these, but the best is Our Lady of the Rosary. Then there's St Paul's Free church, Peter Gadsden is rock solid.
18 churches, I visit them all, services Sunday morning/ evening, many during the week at all different times. Many coffee mornings if you want to start casually.
But if you really want to 'rock' the Living Word would be trendiest for young people. They're holding membership classes on Tuesday night and Prayer group on Wednesday. 10am Sunday for loud worship. Eastwood Road. Check out their web site and e mail Chris, Pete's away this week. Cool, Paul.

Its Frustrating

posted by Holly Tappenden on 10 May 2010 at 9:14 pm

Thanks for the advice Paul, but unfortunately im not religious (although a great appreciation for those who are), or that would have been the first places I would have started.

I have joined a netball club in hastings and a choir in bexhill, but still not met anyone my age yet. Im glad you are in the same boat though Simon its good to see Im not the only one! not good that youve not been able to find the niche for us young adults! Im sure there must be a popular place but Im struggling to find it!

Im from a large village in Dorset and I am sure that any newcomers there would have the same problem as I do here since most people know each other through either work or school. but it does not help my situation any - hopefully one day it will get easier.


posted by Simon Kempthorne on 12 May 2010 at 4:58 pm

I'm also irreligious, so I'm not sure the social gatherings at the churches would be right for me either. I wouldn't absolutely rule it out though, so it's nice of you to inform us on that, Paul.

I've not explored many of the pubs in Bexhill either. The ones I have been in also do lack younger people (it appears), but at least the atmospheres seem friendly enough.

Traffers Bar (on the corner of Egerton Park, closest to the seafront) is not too bad, and they have a "happy hour" every Thursday from 5pm-8pm. I think it's something like 40p off all pints ? not much of a reduction compared to what one might expect from a typical "happy hour", but it's still an incentive nonetheless. I've been in The Harp (on Devonshire Road) also. It seems a reasonable pub, relatively quiet, meaning it's fine enough if you're looking for a drink and to relax at the same time.

I may have to have a look in the Devonshire Arms and Bar One at some point. Bar One appears like it would attract a younger demographic, at least.

Eastbourne and Hastings would seem the places to go for if you're into the clubbing scene, however. I can't give any personal recommendations, since I've given up with the clubbing scene since dropping out of university.


posted by MJW on 13 May 2010 at 10:36 am

Why don't you guys meet up together and start something yourselves for the 20-30 age group who don't want more than to get drunk and fall over? There are plenty of cafes etc in town that you could use as a start-up meeting place, and then when you build up membership you could hire a venue or organise a specific programme of events (trips, bike rides, visits to the theatre, quiz nights, bands, dinner parties, debates, charity activities...) I'm a bit old to join - otherwise I would come along too - but I see what you are getting at. Good luck!

Fab Idea

posted by Holly on 13 May 2010 at 7:01 pm

Thats a good idea thanks MJW! though i wouldnt quite know where to start and get the word out... but thanks for the advice Im going to get my thinking cap on and see what we can do. do the cafes and stuff open in the evenings since i work full time? though i guess can find a quietish pub...

and if anyone can get the word out that would be fab! and any ideas! Simon if you want contact me and we can arrange to meet up, my email is hlltppndn@gmail.com

yeah i dont like going to pubs and clubs etc and things on my own get a bit self-conscious if im not there for a reason. and i dont do the whole drinking thing never have but i make a good designated driver!


posted by Simon Kempthorne on 14 May 2010 at 1:03 am

Thank you MJW, that's an excellent suggestion.

I can't say I know the opening times of many of the social places of Bexhill, but I'm sure some of the pubs ? quiet ones included ? would be open in the evenings! Thus I'm thinking one of them would be a good idea.

I'll stay on the lookout for caf?s that may be open in the evening, though. If anyone else knows of any, please feel free to share.

Thanks for the e-mail address Holly, I'll certainly get in touch (mine is lord.quiff@googlemail.com, just so you can recognise it and not think "spam"!). It would be great to know someone my age that I could meet on a social basis, especially if there are some common interests to share.

(You can tell I'm a night owl with the time that I posted this!)

Salsa Dancing?

posted by Lianne on 22 Jun 2010 at 6:30 pm

Hi there, just read your messages - we run salsa classes on a Monday at the Azur in St Leonards - have you considered dance classes? We're a very friendly bunch, and we have people of all ages there - have a look at our website http://www.salsaloco.co.uk - we run 5 week beginners courses, and our next one starts on July 12th. Good luck with your search!


posted by Sophie on 04 Jul 2010 at 5:48 pm

I'm 23, I have lived in Bexhill since I was 12, I loved it at first, moving from London I loved the beach and stuff as a kid, and I still do, during the summer its the best thing to do, have a barbeque and mess around on the beach with your mates, but yeah there's not much else to do in Bexhill unfortunately, If you want nightlife, your best bet is to go to Brighton, or London, I am into the alternative style of life too, liking heavy music and stuff I have a particular struggle around here, but I do like to go to some old lady things like jumble sales rummerging for bargains so it not a total loss.

A Place To Go

posted by Sa on 18 Aug 2010 at 12:55 pm

hello guys, I can see how you feel about places to go... well I run a restaurant and we also serve coffees or any other drink in the evening from 6 to 10 ish so if you would like to meet there you are more than welcome to come a long... is That's Amore on the seafront... so hope to meet you soon :)

Things To Do

posted by Tony on 14 Sept 2010 at 12:43 pm

Hello re things to do for young people. Try rowing we have a great young group of rowers of both sexes and the social life is pretty good too. You will be taught by our friendly members if youve never been in a boat before. http://www.bexhillrowingclub.com. Alternatively how about trying your skills at acting THE BATS and THE BLODS both cater for all ages and talents or help out backstage.

What To Do !!

posted by Sean Armani on 03 Dec 2011 at 3:07 pm

Hello there, just asking if someone would give me some tips on where to go in bexhill for a nice day with a freind,, Only recentley moved hear and not sure where or what to do Thank's

Some Ideas..

posted by Tony B on 23 Dec 2011 at 12:50 am

I also moved down when 10 like Sophie at a young enough age, which helps but I found most of my mates started from luck, as most I met through my best mate across the road a went from there.. The main place I would tend to go would be ' The Bull Inn 'just by Ravenside, there tends to be most older people but I found that you can have a decent conversation with people.. other things to do (which some have already been said but just in case) rowing, gym, kick boxing, swimming pool, bowling ally (which might be closing by next year) ..Are there still people looking into maybe setting up A group thing for ages of 20 - 30, as I'll be more than happy to try and sort something out, as I've been meaning to join a club or finding a way of meeting new people, as I do find these days that I'm meeting less people in my age group, the most I tend to hang out with in my age is about 20 roughly, but some have gone to uni now.. Message me on ' bubbiza@googlemail.com ,I'll also have a little look around on facebook & google, give a little update if I find anything =]

Has Anyone Found Anything To Do Yet?

posted by Martin on 13 Jan 2012 at 6:44 pm

Im moving to Bexhill soon. Ive noticed there is a few martial arts classes which sound good. I am 27 and hoping to stay there for a few years but maybe i'll end up in Brighton.

Thinking Of Forming A Social Photography Club

posted by James on 13 Jan 2012 at 11:04 pm

I have been a resident of Bexhill all my life. Although I was away at university for three years and have come back to find a lack of things to do within the town. Would really like to meet new people who are my age of 21.

Am looking to start a photography club to walk around Bexhill and the surrounding are to take pictures, socialise and maybe enter a few competitions but mostly to meet others and have a good time. I am also looking to join a pool club and generally meet new people.

If anyone's interested please feel free to email me on jamesmartynwebb@gmail.com

What To Do??

posted by germaine on 02 Jul 2012 at 1:09 pm

IV been living in Bexhill for about a year now and still haven't met anyone my own age (22) im not into clubbing or drinking due to health. I want to join a choir or something like that but don't know were to go. Alot of things iv found I could do involve paying mebership and I can't afford that. IV been out taking pictures as I enjoy that but gets boring on your own. Anyone have any suggestions?? All appreciated

Need Young People Help

posted by Andy on 02 Jul 2012 at 6:06 pm

Hi guys n Girls Im 38 and want to reopen Bexhill last remaining cinema and turn it into a cinema/community venue I would like any advice on this we are on facebook Friends Of Bexhill Cinema with over 1700 people we are always looking for more help thank you Andy

Setting Up Groups

posted by Pete Relf on 02 Oct 2012 at 9:43 am

I know some of the messages on this thread are not new, but did any groups suggested on here ever get going. If anyone is still interested in setting up any sort of group/club, we am here to help. With money to help NEW community groups to get started, networks, training etc, our role is to support individuals who have great ideas, step by step, to help make that idea a reality.
Some of the projects we have supported in Bexhill are Allergy Support, an Arts & Crafts course for parents, young people buying a respite caravan, a youth community event, mums cooking group, and a community garden to name a few.
So if you would like the help of Neighbourhood Enablers or would like to know more, email myself Pete on pete@hastingstrust.co.uk
It will be good to hear from you

Are You Still Looking For Other Young People?

posted by Jesse on 24 Jul 2013 at 8:32 pm

I'm a 22 year old girl who's moving to Bexhill soon. If anyone knows of any good places to meet other young people or is interested in getting a group together, please email me at jesse.boon at hotmail dot co dot uk :)


posted by P on 21 Aug 2013 at 10:39 pm

I'm a 19 year old girl, who moved to bexhill last september. I'd definitely be interested in getting a group together as it seems impossible to meet people of your own age in this town! Please email Peggy at
silencedontblink [AT] gmail . com (:

Moved To The Area!

posted by Rachel on 21 Sept 2013 at 5:42 pm

I've just moved to the area, and I would love to meet people my own age (early 20's)! So if there is any groups / meet ups going I'd love to come along!

New To Bexhill

posted by Jack on 13 Jun 2014 at 5:49 am

Hey all, I have recently moved down to Bexhill due to parents wanting to retire. I am a 24 year old male and to be honest, am finding it difficult to find things to do and people to meet. Is anyone else in the same position? Can anyone give advice on the best way to meet people my age? I am in to creating music and going for a few beers more often than not haha.




posted by Joe Beckley on 08 Jul 2014 at 5:03 pm

Hey, have recently moved down to Bexhill with family. I like small town atmosphere. I am in my early 20's, but Am struggling to meet people. Help please email me at joseph.beckley[AT]live.co.uk.

Joe x

In The Same Boat

posted by Jo on 17 Feb 2015 at 8:32 am

Hi all I'm in the same boat I'm in my early 30's and just moved here feeling very isolated and just wondered if anyone can suggest anything for meeting people around nmmy age everything I've seen seems to be for 50+ age bracket?


posted by Vicky on 19 Feb 2015 at 11:50 pm

Hi Jo, I moved here a year ago...im also in my early 30's, my other half works away a lot so feeling the isolation too...I am up joining any clubs or coffee mornings. Been renovating my house all year...nows the time I need to get out too and meet people!
Feel free to drop us an email..vl_magli@hotmail.com or facebook. :)

Looking For Friends

posted by Ana May on 13 Apr 2015 at 6:47 pm

Im in my early 30's,and would like to make friends with people who like getting out and about,walking in the countryside(possible with a 'reward' of a pub),exploring new places,dog walking,nice chats over cups of tea,that sort of thing...just some decent intellegent company really.


posted by Katie Lewis on 08 May 2015 at 10:55 am

Hi Guys,

I had a quick glance over the messages as I am soon to be in the same boat. I am 28 and moving from London to get away from the hussle and bussle but would love to meet some young, active people to hang with. Please feel to email me as I will be moving at the end of May. :)

My Email Address

posted by Ana May on 12 May 2015 at 6:34 pm

Hi, Katie, and anyone else who's reading.
Im still totally looking for friends, days out, activities. But also lazy days fine too, chats over drinks, or whatever activities or groups anyone wants to suggest. I am early 30's, but people always think 20's as am silly and younger at heart. But serious and good listener if need be. Anyway enough gabbing on(oh,i'm a chatterbox BTW), email me if anyone wants, cicelyanabliss[AT]aol.com.

24 Looking To Meet People Around My Age

posted by Frankie on 26 Nov 2015 at 9:44 am

Hiya all.

Just wondered if any of these groups kicked off? I moved here a few months ago and short of marshal arts (not my thing at the moment) there aren't a lot of groups to join, unless I'm being dense I couldn't even find a book club!

Anyway long story short would very much like to meet new people if any one is interested then give me a message or let me know of any groups etc?

Thanks guys xx

20 Year Old, Need Help

posted by Vicki on 20 Dec 2015 at 11:47 pm

Hi guys, i'm a 20 year old girl in my final year of university. My parents have just moved here to Bexhill but I don't seem to see anyone around of my age or similar! Wondering if any groups of young people were made?
I like to go out, have a few drinks (student life), chill and just have fun, but I obviously need friends to do that with haha!
What is there to do to meet people around my age here?

Thanks, Vicki :)

Social Group For Under 40s

posted by Julie on 21 Dec 2015 at 11:37 pm

Would anyone like to help me coordinate a new social group for Bexhill people aged under 40? There are 3 groups for over 40s (chattterbex.co.uk), but is there need for the younger age group?

Calling All Early 20s

posted by Jessica on 17 Apr 2016 at 9:39 pm

Hello I have just moved to bexhill and would love to meet some people my age I'm 23 and got a 4 year old daughter please feel free to email me if you would like to chat and meet up xx

Calling All Early 20s

posted by Jessica on 17 Apr 2016 at 9:46 pm

Hello I have just moved to bexhill and would love to meet some people my age I'm 23 and got a 4 year old daughter please feel free to email me if you would like to chat and meet up xx


posted by Julie on 24 May 2016 at 8:05 pm

Jessica please contact me re the new social group for Bexhill people aged under 40.... many have young children. jellylegs61@yahoo.co.uk

Things To Do All Age Groups

posted by jacqui le put on 07 Dec 2016 at 2:02 pm

Hi All,
I was in the process of researching things to do for 18 to 21 year olds and read the thread from top to bottom with interest.
Our organisation is putting on a confidence building, team building, and becoming more comfortable about getting into the work place course starting mid January. It is free and will be held in a private woods using conservation and a John Muir Award as part of the project. We do loads of amazing things as part of the project. It will be every Wednesday for about 8 to 10 weeks specifically for people in this age bracket to meet, make new connections and utilise the skills from EFT. We are also running a Walk in the park group for any age starting in February which I will be leading - it will be for 3 hours and again is open for people to meet, socialise and make new connections. If you would like any info then please get in touch. jacquil@educationfuturestrust.org and good luck. :)

18 - 21's Help Please

posted by Kelly on 11 May 2017 at 3:29 pm

I have recently moved to Bexhill from South Africa and am finding it difficult to meet anyone. Are there any social clubs to join to meet people in my age group ?

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